How To Get Through When You’re Having a Bad Day

five tips to help you get through


“I am presently experiencing life at a rate of several WTF’s per hour lately – but I know that every bad moment I’ve had, I will make it through this one too.” Katy Perry

I’ve learnt over time that life (or the universe) is constantly testing us, to see how strong we are by throwing us dodge balls every so often just to see how flexible we are by teaching us lessons, time and time again.

Staying motivated and upbeat 24/7 is freaking hard to do and when life decides to test you out or have a little fun with you by throwing those curve balls at you every so often, that soon enough over time you start to believe that nothing seems to be going your way. After a while you do start to believe that it wasn’t meant to be easy for you and you feel that is how you’re meant to be living your life: dodging those curve balls that you start to accept that as a way of life for you.

Generally I like to think of myself as a pretty happy and positive person. Now granted over the past few years, being on the roller coaster ride of IVF that has not always been made possible, which in turn flared up my anxiety – but I have bad days just like everyone else. Sometimes I think stress brings them on and I just want to scream at everyone, I get really anxious and jittery and break down crying, feeling so lost and alone. Other times I get a flat, empty feeling that for no reason and just get very tearful. But that’s life. I’m human. We are all human.

I know that when life gets so heavy and I feel like I’m drowning, I tend to forget things I should be focusing on and remembering, and only focus on things that I shouldn’t and remember things that really do nothing good for me.

So here are some good reminders for those bad days when you need a little extra reminding:


#1 YOU are OK. It might be a little shitty right now but you are a little bit more stronger each day

Remember you are OK. I hate to state the obvious and we all hate it when someone says you: ‘There a people out there a lot more worse thank you. You should be thankful”. Now as much as we all hate hearing that and in your mind, you have given them the evil eye look and you know what? It’s OK to be selfish for that moment and think what you are going through, is the worst – you are human.  You have survived another day and you are stronger today than you were yesterday, even though you don’t you think or feel that you are.

I know with my own self, my mind is my own worst enemy. I create such crazy thoughts in my head and misinterpret things that people say to me (yes husband, I am acknowledging you here 😉  and text messages, emails are THE worst) and create such wild scenarios in my head that just are NOT even close to existing when I’m in a bad mood or on a downward spiral.

I know that after a  while of feeling so down on myself, I remember that I have a purpose in my life – I have dreams and goals I want to achieve. I always go back to a particular moment in my life when I was 9 years old, and I was at swimming lessons held my school where I got severely teased by a group of kids because they could see I didn’t know how to swim. I turned that painful moment into a goal, a challenge and by the next couple of lessons I proved them wrong. I didn’t give in.

So don’t give up and please don’t give in – and above all, don’t let the darkness cloud your mind and soul.  The sun is always shining on some part of your beautiful life.  Sometimes you just have to forget how you feel, remember what you deserve, and keep pushing forward.

Keep in mind that we all (to put it bluntly) fuck up every so often. We really need to stop being so hard on ourselves, and stop blaming ourselves for when things go wrong. It can be a case when we have let people take advantage of our beautiful natural and we think we deserve less than we really deserve.  But you need to remember that sometimes we have at point in our lives given others less than they deserve.  Two wrongs don’t make a right. It can be a case of letting our priorities and our boundaries get overtaken by the emotional destruction of the day.

Just remember that somehow amongst all the heartache and mind fucks, we do learn from our emotional breakdowns, and even though there are some things we can never recover, and people who will never apologize or acknowledge that they were wrong for letting you down etc, we now know better for next time.  The power is in our hands, minds and hearts.

#2 Nothing is permanent. It won’t always be this way

I have moments when I can get really down on myself and beat myself up, and get into a dark place. Sometimes when the day is really dark, it can be hard so to see any sort of light, but you really have to try.  True warrior strength (I believe in that we are all warriors – stronger than we really think) comes when you have cried as much as humanly possible (anyone else have an ugly face cry? I seriously do) and you’ve complained so much but yet somehow a rainbow in your soul appears and you start to smile and appreciate your life instead.

I know its so hard to see at that moment but there are so many blessings hidden in every struggle you face, but you need to be willing to open up your heart and your mind to see them.  Don’t force it, because really you’re not ready. You’re only going to drive yourself crazy from trying.  A moment in time will appear out of the blue and you will have let it go.  Let go and let what’s meant to be, just be. Stand as strong as you can – it’s going to pass.

#3 You can’t control it – stop worrying

The greatest thing my husband has ever said to me, apart from the obvious (‘I love you’) has been, ‘you can’t control it – stop worrying’. Those six words, literally changed my life.

Don’t get me wrong I still worry but I now don’t obsess over it. I just need to remind myself of those words and they help me tremendously. The basic root of our suffering during all the difficult times is worry. We worry about what’s going to happen next and imagining the most extreme , if not the most ridiculous scenarios (and I can tell you I am the queen of that!! Bah!). It’s all in our minds, our very imaginative minds. We sometimes make ourselves mentally sick and if not, physically sick for worrying more than we really need to. Like my husband, says  – ‘You can’t control it – stop worrying’. At least try not to don’t obsess on it – let us focus on the here and now and not try to predict the future. I will, if you will.

#4 Be a little kinder to yourself

We all need to be our own best friend and treat ourselves with a little extra tender love and care. We need to accept WHO WE ARE and celebrate that. Just know and please believe, that you are that fucking fabulous and worth it babe!

Like I said earlier on, I can be my own worst enemy and think the worst of myself but when that rainbow of light finally makes its way in, I realise how silly (OK then, stupid) I’ve been and can see that even though I have my flaws, I’m pretty fabulous. So tell me why shouldn’t you treat yourself with love and respect – you know that YOU deserve it.

Just know that the better you feel about YOU, the more value you are able going to create for your world.  If you can’t do a lot for yourself right now the just try to do a little – it will add up, and seriously all help and get you pointed in a much more positive direction.

#5 Stay positive

I know personally know the hardest thing is to stay positive when its so much easier to assume the worst and think negative. When I allow my emotions to spiral out control and fall into a downward spiral, I sometimes believe that the world is out to get me or that someone has put a spell on me (that’s for another post, another me – I ain’t joking). But in time I slowly remember (and get myself grounded again) that no one can fix me, except for myself.

There are going to be bad days that will fuck you up emotionally and mentally, but how you see things and how you feel are all in your control. Don’t let any of the bad stuff ruin or stop you.

Remember, that when you let a bad day get the best of you, its going to shoot you down mentally, emotionally and sometimes, even physically (also remember the mind is amazingly powerful) and those negative emotions end up flowing into every single part of your life like a bad virus. So change your mindset and you may shock yourself at what happens. It won’t happen straight away and it will take some time, but you will see developments.

Massive hugs to anyone of you who are going through a bad day/and or time. I am there with you by your side xoxo

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  • Style and Life by Susana
    October 24, 2017

    Thank you so much babe xx

  • Style and Life by Susana
    October 24, 2017

    Thank you so much! Thats the key in the end, its not permanent and that it will in time go away. Hugs xx

  • Savana Rae
    October 24, 2017

    I love your tips.. they are very fundamental in order to get through those days.. you are just sn amazing woman.

  • The Sunday Mode
    October 22, 2017

    These are brilliant tips and I need to remember them the next time I’m having a rough time. I think one of my favourite points it that it’s not permanent, when you’re having a bad day one of the worst thoughts is that you feel like that bad feeling will never go away.

    Julia // The Sunday Mode

  • Style and Life by Susana
    April 24, 2017

    Thank you so much lovely xx

  • Lea H
    April 22, 2017

    Such nice tips. Loved reading through them and definitely keep your words in mind when I’m having my next bad day!
    Lea, xx

  • Style and Life by Susana
    April 12, 2017

    Thank you so much lovely! Hugs to you xx

  • Laveena Sengar
    April 12, 2017

    This just made my day. It is really inspiring and I would totally read this post again when I feel a little low.

  • Style and Life by Susana
    April 11, 2017

    I’m exactly the same way too. Sending hugs to you xx

  • Aubrie Engman
    April 11, 2017

    This is such a good message! I want to bookmark this for when I am feeling down! I know sometimes I can worry about things I shouldn’t and that I am to hard on myself. Sometimes it is good to hear that I am not the only one this way!

  • Thank you so much xx

  • radiatefashion
    April 8, 2017

    Loved reading this so much! Great advice 😀

  • OK, I was with you right you up until you and felt so bad for you (as I have had what you have had a few times, my heart goes out to you and I hope you’re starting to feel better) but as you mentioned the guy that got fired with playing with his weener… now that’s all that keeps flashing in my head (no pun intended!) xx

  • Tereza Cityscape Bliss
    April 7, 2017

    This has hit the nail right on the head! I’ve been SO ANXIOUS these past days it’s ridiculous. Probably doesn’t help that I’ve been down with norovirus which means I literally couldn’t move out of the bed. That made me feel like I’m not doing any work and boom – not only that it made me feel worse but it made me stressed on top of it. We really need to realise that nothing is permanent and things always change. And it could be MUCH worse. That’s what I always remind myself of. Like that guy that got sacked from work for playing with his weener haha it could always be much worse! x

  • You are so welcome! Big hugs xx

  • I’m exactly the same way. Its a big learning curve but you can do it 🙂 xx

  • Chrissy
    April 5, 2017

    Totally needed this today. Thank you sooo much for sharing this amazing list. <3 x

  • Sending you hugs girl. Hope you’re OK xx

  • Glenny
    April 5, 2017

    YAS girl! I totally needed this today 😉 I was feeling a little unmotivated and down but I guess we’re all human right? We just gotta keep moving forward! Great topic 😉

  • OMG!!! Are you serious??! If someone did that to you, they are certainly wishing that they were like you and could do the amazing work you do. What an awful thing to do. Karma will come for them 🙂

  • Candace
    April 5, 2017

    Today, I lost my external hard drive with all my files on there that I’ve had since I have begun blogging. I’m almost certain someone stole it from me at work and instead of me getting angry and raising hell at work, I take that as a sign that I’m doing something they wish they could be doing. Luckily I had my unposted files elsewhere, so they didn’t take much 🙂

  • Always look after yourself lovely but I am the exact same way too x

  • Travel Pockets
    April 4, 2017

    These all great advice. I have a problem of worrying too much, which is not good since that does mess with me! I need to remind myself that I can’t control it 🙂

  • Thank so much lovely xx

  • Anna Nuttall
    April 4, 2017

    That top picture is girl power!! Such a great post. Raaaawwww

  • Amen to that sister! xx

  • Nina Bosken
    April 4, 2017

    When I have down moments, it always helps me to remind me that it’s not always like this. And loving yourself for who you are is so important too!

  • Thank you! x

  • Theresa Marie
    April 4, 2017

    Such great reminders! I love these pics too love!

  • Exactly lovely lady, so very true!! It does make a difference to your spirits when you ‘let it go’ xx

  • It’s all a learning curve still for me, I’m getting better as time goes on by xx

  • Thank you so much xx

  • Twin Pickle
    April 4, 2017

    Great tips Susana! I would particularly agree with ‘Nothing is Permanent’, I say this to myself every time I’m having a rough patch. And letting go of trying to control everything is something I find SO difficult. I’ve fought getting help with the Twins for so long because, you know, I’m super-woman. Eventually I listened to my loved ones who could see I was struggling, even if I couldn’t, and got some childcare… wow what a difference, just let go a couple of times a week!

  • Shasha
    April 4, 2017

    I love the first photo in this post! You rock Susana! lol. Thank you so much for the reminders. I have to admit that I’m a control freak and I worry about things when I shouldn’t or always think about the worst case scenario. I definitely need to do a better job of focusing on the things I can control, and letting go of things I can’t.

  • Geneva Jael Edgar
    April 4, 2017

    This is so positive love the vibes ??✌?

  • I hope you are OK beautiful. Sending a hug your way xx

  • I am exactly the same but I am slowly getting better over time xx

  • That is a great point! xx

  • You’re welcome xx

  • Thank you xx

  • Thank you babe xx

  • I am the worst about being a worry wart and imagine everything possible 🙂

  • That’s its we just need to somehow remember its ‘fleeting’ xx

  • Thank you lovely xx

  • Sophia Whitham
    April 4, 2017

    I needed this today so thank you!! Nothing is permanent, the best is yet to be xx

    Sophia xx

  • Grazia
    April 4, 2017

    This is a really interesting post! I think that I must stay positive and treat myself better than I do when I have a bad day! thank you!

  • Jennifer Morales
    April 4, 2017

    Great Tips!
    Sometimes the most obvious is the most forgotten and its always good to have someone remind us about these tips specially when we feel overwhelmed and find no way through.

  • Patricia Lora
    April 4, 2017

    Loving these tips babe. Number #2 is my favorite and so true!

    xo, Patty

  • Julian Palmer
    April 3, 2017

    I am such a worry wart, but you are so right!

  • Spot on! We’ll all feel this way at some point in our lives, and it’s important that we think of pain and disappointment as fleeting and temporary. Thanks for these tips Susana. 🙂

  • mapolo cheoane
    April 3, 2017

    Great tips, my motto is of I can’t change it, I don’t worry about it. Thanks for the tips 🙂

  • I can’t believe I forgot about that one because I do that myself!! Music is an incredibly important healer to one’s soul. Thanking you for dropping by and commenting xx

  • Hollie Hawley
    April 3, 2017

    In the “Be a little kinder to yourself” category, my favorite way to get through a bad day is to dance. There’s something about moving that gives an outlet to bad vibes and helps me to cast them off. I just put on fast music and dance in the kitchen.

  • Thank you so much xx (and thank you for dropping by and commenting <3 )

  • Sudhaa Gopinath
    April 3, 2017

    A practical post. Love your positivity.