Kindness Makes You Happy… and Happiness Makes You Kind

Written by: Tracey Clayton

[ctt template=”8″ link=”yQjnP” via=”no” ]The best feeling of happiness is when you’re happy because you’ve made somebody else happy.[/ctt]

Everyone has experienced at least once in their life the mixture of excitement and satisfaction upon doing something that made other people happy. Giving is more fulfilling than receiving – we’ve heard this a million times, but have we ever taken some time to think about it and truly understand it? Being generous and kind makes us happy, and in turn, that happiness promotes other good deeds. In a way, kindness promotes life and it’s a never-ending ride, if we dare to join it.

The Psychology Behind Kindness


The feeling of happiness evoked by the act of kindness isn’t a random thing, but rather a legitimate psychological reaction firmly grounded in science.

The flood of positive emotions that appears after we’ve made someone happy is a result of two hormones responsible for good mood – oxytocin and dopamine.

Speaking in psychological terms, a “helper’s high” is the feeling of satisfaction we get after putting a smile on someone’s face. There’s extensive amount of research done on this subject, which has showed encouraging results. One such study conducted in the UK, involved participants taking a survey which measured life satisfaction.

A Circle of Virtue


A desire to develop and constantly improve social connections is what makes us human.

Taking care of each other is a primal instinct, and this encompasses generosity as well. Kindness creates social links which are vital for our existence; therefore, human species wouldn’t have survived long without it. Generosity has kept the world going, and it’s energy that self-propels.

An act of kindness makes people happy, which in turn makes them eager to do more good deeds. Researchers from Harvard Business School put this theory to the test. The participants of the study were asked to recall the times when they spent money on others and on themselves and to tell how happy they feel now thinking about it.

The findings showed that people generally felt happier when recalling occasions when they spent money on others, rather than those when they did it for themselves. In addition to this, the participants who were happy about their prior good deeds were also glad to repeat them in present. This suggests that an act of kindness leads to satisfaction, which promotes further kindness.

The Importance of Raising Children to be Kind

Mass media promote materialism and greed, and it can be challenging to keep children away from their negative influence.

Children need to be taught from an early age about the importance of being modest and generous to others. That’s hard to do in today’s time when the only thing that matters is having the most expensive tablet or iPhone.

Parents need to explain their children the difference between things they want and things they really need. Home, food, and clothes are essential, everything else is of secondary importance. This doesn’t mean that your child should never buy things they want; it simply teaches them about moderation.

Clothes are a necessity to have, but it’s not necessary to follow the most expensive trends – little children will still look amazing in cheap clothing for kids and they will learn that modesty feels and looks better than lavish spending.

[ctt template=”8″ link=”yQjnP” via=”no” ]Anne Frank once wrote: “No one has ever become poor by giving.”[/ctt]

Kindness is the Road to Success


Selfishness and greed cause us to feel insecure and don’t allow us to give our best.

Kind people usually aren’t self-centered and this enables them to perform better.

They are free to express themselves in any way they want, which increases their chances of becoming accomplished people. What’s more, you only become richer.

Tracey Clayton is a full time mom of three girls. She loves cooking, baking, sewing, spending quality time with her daughters and she’s passionate in writing. Hers motto is: “Live the life you love, love the life you live.”

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  • So true, isn’t it? X

  • Alvin Lau
    June 7, 2017

    Certainly agree with this post! Especially on the part where being kind to others makes you happy as well.

  • Completely agree xx

  • Thank you xx

  • GiGi Crofts
    June 5, 2017

    Beautiful, i really enjoyed this post x

  • Lea H
    June 4, 2017

    This is such a beautiful post and I have to agree with every word you said. Kindness can do sooooo much and it really is the best feeling when you have done something for others and see how they react to it.
    Lea, xx

  • It all just makes so much sense xx

  • It truly is!! xx

  • Sending you hugs xx

  • Claire Lee
    June 3, 2017

    Kindness & Happiness is both important aspect to have in your life. I think this post is really calming to read!

  • Kate Schiffman
    June 3, 2017

    I love the scientific backup you put in here about why happiness and generosity are linked!

  • Jennifer Worrell
    June 3, 2017

    These words really resonate with me! Beautiful article!

  • Such great thoughts and common sense really xx

  • Aditi Parashar
    June 1, 2017

    This is a beautiful article entailed by beautiful thoughts!
    Great going, love. x